Body image is a hard thing for girls my age or younger. 

We want to look a certain way and because of this we nit pick at the features we possess.

I am usually a pretty confident person but, lately I have been struggling with having a positive body image. I'd see these girls on Instagram or Twitter being revered for their bodies. 

Their big boobs, big butts, and small waists, their perfect cheek bones, and fleeked eyebrows. I began to compare my features to theirs. I observed my lack of shape and curves, and my undefined cheekbones, and plain Jane eyebrows. And I felt and occasionally still feel like I am not good enough.

 It's even more difficult being a black female. We are known as having naturally curvy features that white women pay for but, my body is not like that and I feel as if it is a part of the black culture that I can't relate to. 

The thing guys say on social media also affects me. Do you ever see a guy saying, "I want me a skinny girl, the more bones the better?" Nope, almost all of them, at least from what I observed on social media say they want a "thick girl" or girls with a "fat ass" and "big tits." Once in a blue moon I'll see a guy who thinks personality matters more. It's not only on social media, sometimes you can over hear guys saying "she cute but, she ain't got no ass." Seeing comments like those caused me to think that I would never be good enough to find a guy who would like me because I don't have those things those guys look for. 

So, in order for me to learn to love my body and to not compare myself to those people on social media, I took a break from it. Yup, no Instagram or Twitter, and I did it for about a week. It was a challenge since I usually go to both of those apps on the daily. 

It surprised me how much stuff I got done, since I use social media to procrastinate, I had no distractions. It also surprised me how much it actually affected my body image, I did it as an experiment in hopes of feeling better and focusing on myself instead of other people but, for some reason didn't really expect it to work. With in the week I was feeling more confident and started appreciating myself again. 

But, if you are ever feeling less confident find out whats causing it, limit it or eliminate it from your life and see how you feel afterwards!

 If you can relate let me know by leaving a comment or e-mailing me at imani.ladybug98@gmail.com

Remember: Someone cannot give you confidence. Having good body image and more self-confidence comes from with in and must be learned by becoming more comfortable with yourself.